Sometimes you have to be selfish to stay sane. There are things that you have to do in order for self-preservation. Dictionary.com says selfishness is being devoted to or caring only for oneself; concerned primarily with one's own interests, benefits, welfare, etc., regardless of others. A lot of times you have to put your interests before everyone else’s. If a relationship or friendship is causing you nothing but anguish and heartache, you have to rid yourself of the person. It could hurt the other person deeply, but should you remain in pain so the other person will feel good? No one will care about you, until YOU care about you. You can love a person with all your heart and soul, but if you not getting the kind of love you want in return, what are you to do? Continue to be miserable, so a twisted, hurtful, one-sided relationship can fulfill another’s needs? Subverting your feelings for someone else is so 1950s. If you can’t get what you want or desire from a relationship or friendship, let it go. Let it go. Let it go. Let it go. Let it go.
This is just my humble advice.
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I totally agree with this post. Sometimes you just have to finally realize that it's time to let a past friend go. It really shouldn't cause you any sort of pain at all to be in any type of friendship with someone else. If it does, get away from that person and FAST!! I know I learned that the hard way. I've not done things in friendships that the other people KNEW I would eventually do, but I don't care. I did not do them because of how the two friends treated me and karma has come back and bit these few people so hard in the a$$, it makes me laugh with glee it is so hilarious so they have NO ONE but themselves to blame. I am glad I have taken the advice of my other friends and family members and did NOT give in to do what I thought I "should do" just on the bounds of ceremony, gag, and instead I stuck with my morals. I did NOT do what these two individuals were positive I would eventually do and to that all I can say is...KARMA HIT YA HARD HUH! I wish I cared but I honestly do not. It feels great that I did not give in and do the things. I and all my other friends are very proud of me. As for me being "jealous" of this one person's "situation"... hardly, LOL. In fact, I am so UN-jealous, I am in the midst of hosting a similiar thing for another friend of mine who stuck by me through thick and thin this past year. She and her hubby will reap the rewards of standing by me and not turning away. "To the victor go the spoils."
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