Can someone tell me why dating is like a sporting event? It’s clear why some call it “the game.” But, unfortunately, I’ve never learned the rules. I assumed I knew the object, but everyone’s objective is different and they lie to everyone else about what their objective actually is. So you may be playing the I Want to Get Married game, but your partner is playing I Want to Sleep with You Only game. Both of you are playing from a set of rules, and they definitely don’t match. Nobody plays I Just Tell It Like It Is. It’s about as acceptable to play that game as it is to pick your nose at dinner. Totally out of favor. Of course, there’s score keeping. Who said I like you first. Who said I love you first. How long did it take you to give it up. When did you start paying for everything. When did you expect him to pay for everything. There is definitely score keeping going on; don’t live in a fantasy world and believe it ain’t happening. It is. You probably have zero if you’re not keeping score. Poor you. There are as many games as people on earth I’m sure. Everyone has an agenda: I Don’t Want You to Discover My Girlfriend. You Have No Idea I Will Control Your Every Move, I Hope to God You Can’t Tell I Really, Really Love You, and so on and so on. Everyone is lying. Everyone has a hidden agenda. Everyone is keeping a secret scorecard. I think I will remain on the sideline with the waterboy. (yeah, I’m bitter, so???)
Oldie but goodie: Don’t Stop the Music by Yarbrough & Peoples.
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dating sucks! it seems everyone else is married, and we are just looking for dates. of course when i myself look at the men my friends married, i know i wouldn't have ever settled for those types, my standards are way higher, and that makes it hard, but don't give up, your man is out there just like mine is.
High standards - that's another problem I have.
I too look at other women and scratch my head wondering what ever put people together. Then I thank God I'm free.
Back to the high standards thing, it's weird how having high standards is kind of a detriment to women sometimes. And I don't mean they have to be wealthy and can take care of me. All I want is a man I can trust who doesn't have a wandering eye who can carry on an intelligent conversation who can make fun of himself, doesn't have any golfing, gambling, X-Box, drinking, thinks he's going to tell me what to do kind of habits.
Is that too much to ask?
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You poor thing. I totally feel your pain. And I would have to agree with you about just about everyone I know, unfortunately. I am one of those people who just says it like it is, but it seems that other people would much rather just play games. I don't understand because it's so much easier to be honest. I think many a man has been kind of intimidated by me because I'm so honest. It's almost like they want me to be dishonest with them.
I was recently given my walking papers by someone I absolutely adored. So for now, I think I'm going to be a little selfish and enjoy as much eye-candy as possible. I think I'm going to have my own hidden agenda for a while.
Sadly, men still want an Eve instead of a Lilith.
Lilith was Adam's first wife. She didn't like the confinements of traditional relationships so grew wings and flew away. She never asked for any alimony or for him to pay her plane ticket out of town. She was independent.
Eve, on the other hand was more sly. She hid her true agenda of manipulating her husband, so she charmed Adam into taking a bite out of that apple. If Adam had all that info from the tree of knowlege, she could manipulate him into using it the way she wanted, yet still look like the little innocent wife who has no power at all.
Because men cling so hard to ego and pride, they want an Eve who can pretend he's in charge to salve his ego, even though they both know differently!! What's funny is how angry he is when she leaves, as if he didn't know she would do such a thing. Come on.
I am still single because if I have to pretend a man is smarter than me to assuage his ego, then I don't respect him, and I can't be with anyone I don't respect.
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