The second biggest time to get married besides June is Fall. The late August to October bride is increasingly popular. The temperate weather and beautiful colors have a draw. Already went to a September wedding and going to a October wedding soon. Of course, with weddings comes the bridal shower, the wedding shower, the bachelor party, the bachelorette party, the rehearsal dinner, the reception….and if you are really “In-style” the Sunday brunch and the couples shower. It’s definitely a celebration. Lots of fun and money spent. Of course, being as cynical as I am it’s a tiny bit hard for me to keep the sneer off my face. But, I’m not all acidic quips and slightly pessimistic realism. I can appreciate the beauty of the wedding vows, the beautiful dresses, the fragrant & colorful flowers, great food, and stylish or non-descript suits. I’ve heard of the bridezilla phenomenon but fortunately I have not been up close and personal. But, I’ve heard tales and witnessed a little narcissism. Fall also brings those new-year conceived babies. Little bundles of joy (and expense) come to suspecting or unsuspecting parents. The pack & plays, baby bottles, cribs, bassinets, diapers and bibs crowd out the golf clubs, sports cars, demanding work schedules, because a new priority shifts around what gets top spot in your life. A difficult time filled with anxiety and promise, but definite time to celebrate. I love children and can hardly be cynical about the subject. Kids come with sneaky grins, unconditional love, surprising intelligence and insight, infectious laughs, and open hearts. Being called child-like is not always an insult. Of course, poopy diapers, spit-up, and, later on, back-talk are something to combat, but are just apart of the duty to raise an independent, caring, kind, and generous adult.
Here’s a list of vocabulary words that need to be committed to memory: subtle, hyperbole, sensationalism, shocking, and obtuse.
Words, once they are printed, have a life of their own.
Carol Burnett
Better to write for yourself and have no public, than to write for the public and have no self.
Cyril Connolly
3 comments:
I think fall would be a nice time to get married. Why are you so jaded and bitter? I have never read a post with more angry undertones. If you are angry that friends are getting married and you do not even have a boyfriend, do not go to these events. Easy as that. No one is forcing you to attend anything. You go on your own free will. Maybe you go so you feel then you have an excuse to go home and have a poor me party.
I have seen the “Bridezilla” phenom up close and too personal. It is a nasty sight, I kid you not. Like you, I have been through the cycle of showers, bridal parties, bridal brunches, lunches and dinners, wedding barbeques, wedding buffets, reception clean-up crew, rehearsal hell, and every other sordid related wedding event. And yes, I voluntarily put myself through the turmoil of the above-mentioned events out of true and sincere love and a desire to help my sorors, good buddies and sista-girlfriends-for-life.
But I am truly suspect of the wedding process and its encumbrances, especially the cost. Although, I am not a fan of shot-gun Courthouse ceremonies either, I do think weddings should be small and intimate affairs, in which you and your Beloved are focused more on entering a lifelong commitment to one another, versus getting down the aisle by 5:03 because the photographer charges by the hour and you have at least 20 group photos to do before the reception attendees are allowed to eat.
I could have been married at least 2 times by now and I would have been had God not intervened and knocked some sense into my behind before I committed myself to my Demon-boyfriend-of-the-moment. Marriage will happen soon enough and I am in no rush. I would rather make sure my marriage is gonna be comfortable and strong all the way through versus just focusing on giving it a pretty entrance.
Besides, divorce is expensive and emotionally consuming and (although many divorced folks would be loathe to admit it) embarrassing, especially after you have knocked out 20K for the nuptials. It never fails that as I am sitting in the pews waiting for one of these super-duper glorious Bride Magazine-type weddings to begin, I think to myself how much better it would have been for these fools (whom I love dearly) to have just spent 5K on the wedding and put the other 15K as a down payment on a house. Folks would have attended the event just the same and brought just as many presents (if you did your registry right). But, I guess, as long as the happy, yet highly-debt-burdened couple doesn’t come a-knockin’ on my door asking for spare change, who am I to judge? I should just snap a few photos, clap after they finish their first dance, grab some champagne from the peeing-Angel at the end of the buffet table and wish them God speed.
I don't believe she is jaded or bitter at all; rather hopeful and refreshing.
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